“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Proverbs 27:17
By: Kerri Young
One of the things we have been blessed the most with since joining our church a year and a half ago is amazing community with a small group of three other families. There is just nothing better than doing life with people…holding each other accountable to the important things, reminding each other how beautiful you are in Christ when you aren’t feeling worthy, providing each other with shoulders to cry on when life gets hard and rejoicing with each other when life gets really good.
Awhile back we had two of the families from our group over for dinner and conversation (the other couple hadn’t returned from a trip yet and we missed them!). The weather was beautiful so two of my kiddos played outside with the other three big kids most of the night, and the rest of us hung out inside and laughed…and laughed…and laughed some more. (Even our littlest guy joined in…that little dude is a social laugher! There is nothing cuter than a baby who has no idea what he is laughing about cackling like a hyena just because everyone else is hysterically laughing.)
I am so thankful God created us to be in community. He even says in Genesis 2:18 that it’s not good for man to be alone. Hallelujah for that! Even though I’ve always thought that just meant Adam needed a wife, I’ve come to the realization over the years that it means so much more than that. We are created in God’s image and even He isn’t alone! God is in eternal community with Himself as Father, Son and Holy Spirit. If God isn’t satisfied alone, how can we be?
I know there are different types of personalities. If you haven’t guessed from what little you know about me from reading, I am an extrovert. I know; big shock! But, introverts need community, too. Deep down inside we all want to be known, which is why the lyrics from a well-known sit-com from my youth (Cheers) ring so true:
“Sometimes you want to go where everybody knows your name, and they’re always glad you came.”
Praise the Lord the author and perfector of life knows us, but we also have a desire to be known by people. And we function better when we are known. Iron sharpens iron (Proverbs 27:17). Two are better than one (Ecclesiastes 4:9).
If you don’t have a group of people who lend you a hand when you are overwhelmed, who delight in getting on their faces before God and offering prayers up for you when you most need it, and who accept you just as you are warts and all, you are truly missing out. You will be a better Christ-follower, a better spouse, a better parent, a better everything when you aren’t alone. I understand that there are seasons, and in some seasons for some reason the Lord might make being in community impossible for you. But in general, I think community is something we need to pursue wholeheartedly.
So, if you aren’t currently in community with a group of people (whether it be with other couples as a family or with other moms), I challenge you to pray and ask God to introduce you to some people with whom you can start sharing your life. You won’t regret it!