2 Corinthians 12: 9-10 “But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”
By: Sarah Smith
This next post has to do with perfect children. My first-born was ‘by the book’. He did everything pretty much on cue from the ‘What to Expect the First Year” book. As a matter of fact, if you check the Milestone Charts, his name would be right by the “Mastered Skills” and sometimes even “Advanced Skills” for his age level. He was even right in the middle of those growth charts at the doctor’s office. He was, in fact, a perfect baby! He even had the ‘fussies’ (a.k.a. colic) right on schedule. (That might make him not-so-perfect in some people’s minds)
In his toddler through pre-school years, I was always right there making sure he was making good choices and treating others kindly. I remember one mom fussing at me telling me I didn’t know what my son did when my back was turned as I complained about her child hitting mine. I remember thinking “that’s why I don’t turn my back!”
Wow, do you realize what I had done? I had wanted him to be so perfect that I really wasn’t allowing him to make mistakes. I was right there…all the time. Now, to be honest, you won’t find me saying I should have turned my back more. But, I do admit that I should have held back and not opened my mouth so quickly. I should have given him the chance to make the wrong choice (without harming others) and then used those opportunities to teach him. Instead, I created a mindset in this child that the right choice had to be made each and every time.
It hit me one day what I had done when he was going to a friend’s house. I waited in the driveway for him to go to the door. He came back to the car and asked me “Should I knock or ring the doorbell?” I just stared at him and calmly said “You decide.” Poor kid was frozen. He didn’t know how to decide because over the past 7 years, I had made those decisions for him. Wow, I’m glad I saw the errors of my ways but I must tell you, trying to fix that has been difficult. I am proud to report that he has turned out to be quite the independent young man. And, yes, he’s even made a few mistakes along the way and those have been the lessons he has learned the most from.
One of my favorite pictures of my son was taken on a snowy slope as he was snowboarding. I was taking several shots as he came down faster and faster…until finally, he landed FLAT ON HIS FACE!
And this Bible verse speaks to me. Proverbs 24:16 ”For though a righteous man falls seven times, he rises again, but the wicked are brought down by calamity.”
And, I realize, if I am raising my son to trust in the perfect power of God. He doesn’t have to be perfect…it says right here that the righteous will fall…he just has to get up again, with the help of God! And, he did! With a smile on his face! And, he went back for more and he didn’t fall on his face again!
So, when the weatherman showed my submitted photo on the news that early morning along with all the other photos submitted by other moms of their children in their cute little snowsuits proudly standing next to their cute little snowmen, he asked his audience “What kind of mother sends in a picture like this?” And, I thought, “A mom who loves her son, even as he falls flat on his face.” You know the one, the one who doesn’t expect perfection from her children because she trusts in the perfect power of the God who created them.
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