Category Archives: Ask the MOMS

Some of the best advice that I received as a new mom was: “Only you know what is best for your child so trust your instinct.” The MOMS will respond to your questions in full knowledge that there is not one right answer. We hope to give different perspectives out of our own experiences that will empower you to trust those instincts.

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Ask The MOMS: What do you do with early risers?

This entry is part 2 of 2 in the series Ask the MOMS

“An intelligent heart acquires knowledge, and the ear of the wise seeks knowledge.” Proverbs 18:15

We welcome questions from our readers.  We try to be as honest as possible when answering and try to give several different opinions because no one answer will work for everybody. We acknowledge that we do not have all the answers.  Here is a question from a mother of two who is expecting her third. If you have advice to share with this mom, please comment below.

“I’d love to see a blog post on what to do with kids who wake up early. My kids are early risers, and I’m dreading summer. Trying to come up with ideas. They are so awake and loud and this mommy is tired and weary. Especially being pregnant. Seems like it should be an easy solution, but I feel just overwhelmed and frustrated by it.” Laurel- Doylestown, PA Continue reading

Ask the MOMS- What Can I Do to Prepare for Motherhood?

This entry is part 1 of 2 in the series Ask the MOMS

These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.  Titus 2:4-5 NLT

We MOMS cringe at the thought of being “the older women”, but we do find beauty in the culture the LORD ordained of mentorship of women throughout the generations.  There are many women who have come before us who have guided us through the early stages of parenting.  Now that we have a few years under our belt, we carry on the tradition of “training the younger women”.
We received the following e-mail from one of our readers who is not a mother but hopes to be some day:

My husband and I have been married for 3 years. A while ago, I imagined us wanting to have children by now. However, we have recently moved to China to teach at an international school. This throws our previous “plan” out the window, and now we will probably be waiting at least 2 more years before we think about trying to have a baby. We are fine with this decision and feel like it is wise to first transition into our new lifestyle before we add to our family. My question for you is: What can I do to prepare for motherhood? What do you wish you knew before you had children? A part of me always wanted to be a mom, and now a part of me loves the quiet life we currently have. Once I’m a mom, I can’t go back, and I think at this stage, that’s a little frightening. Granted, I don’t know what God has for us, but if children are in His plan for us, I’d like to be spiritually and mentally ready. Do you ever feel like you are “ready” to be a mom? Continue reading

Dear Mama, Rest… Love, Me

“By the seventh day God had finished the work he had been doing; so on the seventh day he rested from all his work. Then God blessed the seventh day and made it holy, because on it he rested from all the work of creating that he had done.” Genesis 2:2-3

“Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me.” Matthew 11:28-29a.

Dear Mama,

You need a break. You need some time to pursue your interests. You need to rest. Yes, you. “How?” you ask. I’ll give you some suggestions.

Love, Me

HOW

1)      Your husband CAN handle it. He’s not a babysitter, he’s the dad. If he does things differently than you would it’s not wrong. As a team you should agree that both of you need “you” time. Figure out the best way to make it happen.

2)      Partner with a friend or neighbor. You watch her kids; she watches yours.

3)      Babysitter! If you can’t afford one find a younger girl that can be a mother’s helper. Give her firm guidelines and have some activities ready.

WHY

1)      You need a break from your kids, and they need to learn they can get along without you. They can learn to trust.

2)      It’s important to maintain or develop interests apart from your children. Yes, being a mom is consuming in good and bad ways, but it shouldn’t be the entire definition of who you are.

3)      It’s important that you are a good example to your children. Taking time to exercise, maintain your health, read the Bible and trying new things are good things for your children to see you doing.

I know that I’ve made it seem simple in this short post. In some ways it is, but in some ways it isn’t. For some mamas it will take more work than others. The moms at Mosaic of Moms can try to give you specific suggestions if you want to send us your questions. And I’m not just talking to new mommies, you moms who have been at this for a while may need to re-evaluate.