By: Sarah Smith
God looked at everything he had made, and he was very pleased.
Read: Genesis 1:1-31
PLEASE GO LOOK IN THE MIRROR!
God created YOU! And he is very pleased with his creation.
When we fill our heads with negative self-talk, we are telling God he is wrong to be pleased with us. God created us just the way we are for a very specific purpose. When we say something about ourselves, we need to ask, “Does God agree with this?” We need to align our thoughts with the thoughts of God.
We can apply this to our children as well. Have you ever referred to your family by their labels or certain phrases? “Oh, he’s my forgetful one.”, “Dreamer.”, “I’m sure he’d lose his head if it wasn’t attached.”, “Hyper”, “Shy”, “Bossy”, “Easy going”, “Stubborn”, etc… There can be positive characteristics behind each of these.
My son is great at retracing his steps in order to find things. I marvel at how well he can do that. Do you realize the difference in how my son would feel if the next time he loses something, I say to him, “But, you are so good at finding things!”? Let’s just re-trace your steps.” instead of “Not again. Why do you always lose stuff?” The item will be found much faster when he is feeling good about himself than if he focuses on the ‘problem’.
Maybe that ‘stubborn’ child will stand up to peer-pressure because they are so sure of themselves that they don’t need to please their friends when they are certain of who they are and where they stand in God’s plan.
Personally, I have a hard time thinking of “easy going” as a bad thing. However, if we label our child “easy going” we might not realize when they need us to help them with a problem. We have to be willing to ask the questions in order to get them to open up. The easy-going child is often forgotten.
I learned once that if we say negative things to ourselves or those around us often enough, then we will live like they are true. Our children may think thoughts like:
“If Mom says it, then it must be so.”
“If mom says I’m lazy, then I must be lazy. Guess I don’t have to clean my room or do my homework because I’m lazy.”
“If mom says I’m shy, then I must be shy. Guess I don’t have to meet new friends at school because I’m shy.”
“Moms are almost always right so she must be right about this, too.”
So, let’s help our kids start believing the best in themselves! How great it will be to know our children are thinking to themselves.“If mom says I’m a child of God, then I must be a child of God.” Better yet, “If God says he is pleased with his creation, he is pleased with me.” And, then watch how they start to live according to his purpose and plan.